Normally, courtship has its ups and downs but there are specific
things that hinder attraction, dating and pursuit by men. Most women fail to understand
the ‘being a man’ situation. This is evidenced by their unassuming actions
which give men a mistaken impression to retract their approach. You should
therefore take the initiative to refrain from them if you don’t have such
intentions.
Standing Close to Friends
Staying ever close to your friends can be a definitive body
language that pushes men away. This is due to the fact that men find it easier
to approach a lone person than approaching a group. It is apt to make yourself
available in anticipation for his approach by making the conditions favorable. Even
though, friends may serve as refuge in most social situations, they can relay a
strong impression that you are not out to mingle with new people or don’t
entertain approaches from men.
Hanging with
Guy-Friends
As much as approaching an assemblage may be intimidating, approaching
a woman in the company of men is similarly nerve-wrecking. This is not only due
to the pressure of the situation, but also due to the uncertainty of your relationship
with the chaps.
Your Natural Smile
General smiles matched with gazes across the room do not
necessarily imply you are interested in the individual you are locking eyes
with. In such situations, fear and nervousness can overwhelm their judgment. They
could actually think you are drawn to something else, being sociable or just glancing
by. It would be better to harmonize your
glance at them with a gentle smile. This has a more vivid and forthcoming
impression. It is similarly less demanding on your part.
Holding a Drink
Having a drink takes away the opportunity for guys to offer
you one in way of initiating their approach. With a drink in hand, the men are
bound to shilly-shally from coming up to you. Men will also tend to abate from
using pickup lines in their approach due to the effort entailed.
More so, if men realize that you’ve had plenty of drinks,
they would shy away from offering you another drink lest you think they are
trying to take advantage of the situation. This can push them to look for other
options where they have better chances. It is more appropriate to have water in
your hand if you must have a drink. You can also break from holding your drink
to give the onlookers an opportunity to approach you with another. This way,
you can also save on your Nairobi outing.
Hang Around the Bar
It could be frightening to approach someone at their table
for fear of making them uneasy. This is in contrast to the bar area which is
commonly seen as everybody’s space, and gives men the go ahead to approach you.
The situation could also be the other way round. Sometimes,
you might get excess attention and force some prospects to withdraw. In such a
case, you should move away from the bar to isolate those who have serious
interest in you.
Have an Eye for
Everyone
Even though your attention may be drawn to your accompanying
friends or a particular individual, it may be wise to let your eyes explore the
room from time to time. This is important because it puts you out there rather
than creating the impression you are contented with your social bubble. This
motivates the interested parties to seize the opportunity to approach you.
Break from Your
Gathering at Times
If you are out with friends, it is advised that you take
some time away from them. The break can be as simple as going for a drink at
the bar or stepping out for some fresh air. This gives the guys a chance to face
you one on one and breaks the impression that you are engaged to your group.
These are clear-cut pointers to help you create the right
atmosphere for men to approach you. You should therefore consider them on your
next outing in Nairobi or elsewhere in the world if you hope to connect to suitors.
